A colleague shared this amazing quote with me…

“Speak to your children as if they are the wisest, kindest, most beautiful and magical humans on earth, for what they believe is what they will become.”

As you know by now, I started reflecting on how I speak to my daughter, Finnley. I certainly hope she would say that I make her feel this way, but I can’t be certain she would. I know that she has often told me that I only focus on what she does wrong or what she needs to “fix”. And while I certainly don’t agree, it doesn’t matter because this is how I have made her feel.

I wholeheartedly believe that when I am correcting her it is coming from a place of love and care. Clearly though, that is not always the message she is hearing from me. I think my intent sometimes gets lost in the way I speak to her. I stumbled across this simple article that lists 50 ways to speak to your child positively. The article mentions when parents speak positively to their child they are less likely to have to nag at them. I don’t doubt that this is absolutely true but when you are in that moment when your child still hasn’t cleaned their room or finished their homework it is hard to remain positive.

I know that I need to remember that in how I use my words with Finnley so that I am lifting her up. As her mother, the person who loves her more than anyone else, my words should be a constant reminder of what a blessing she is...sass and all! I am going to make sure that everyday I shower with an affirmation that reminds her just how incredible she is while also guiding her to make positive changes and choices in her life.

I tell our students all the time the most powerful tool they have is their words. They can use them to lift someone up or tear them down. I encourage you to have a conversation with your child about how they choose to use their words. And please join me in reminding our children just how much we love them!

Kindly,

Kim

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